Phil Vassar – “Bobbi With An I”

C.M. Wilcox | May 22nd, 2009

Phil Vassar The new single from Phil Vassar is about a transvestite. Far from being a liability, that’s its most interesting feature, as it’s a profoundly uninspired recording in almost every other respect.

So, there’s this guy. A former linebacker and current tow truck driver, Bobby is strong as a mule, the sort of fellow who would pop you one in the face for looking at him the wrong way. But at nighttime he likes to get all dolled up like a woman and go out on the town as Bobbi (with an i). “In his pink party dress you never would guess he benches 335,” sings Vassar in his trademark commercial croon.

Unlike “Cowboys Are Frequently Secretly Fond of Each Other,” Willie Nelson’s ode to the similarly uncomfortable subject of homosexuality on the range, there’s no edge of political or social commentary to “Bobbi.” Where Nelson’s song was a plea for understanding and compassion, the closest Vassar comes to offering any sort of general comment on the issue is the noncommittal “we live and let live, that’s how it is/nobody gives a second thought these days.”

Which begs the question: if nobody gives it a second thought, why is Vassar bothering to devote an entire song to it?

A similar song that justifies its own existence is comedian-singer Rodney Carrington’s “Dancing With a Man,” which comes with a built-in emotional hook–I was dancing with a woman and it turned out that she was actually a man. Not a terribly original idea, but at least we can see why a guy might want to tell that story. For most red-blooded American males, dancing with a man is right up there with adult circumcision and attending a Rascal Flatts concert on the list of traumatizing experiences. Not the sort of thing you forget if it happens to you.

In “Bobbi,” the story is this: There’s this tough guy I know who dresses up like a woman and, although it does not bother me at all, for some reason I would like to tell you about it. As far as stories go, that’s about as interesting as ‘I know a guy who did a thing.’ Where’s the story? Why should anyone care? If you don’t find the contrast between a “tow truck driver” and “pink party dress” utterly enthralling, you are out of luck, as this song offers little beyond that initial juxtaposition.

As a joke, it lacks a punchline. As social commentary, it lacks a message. Vassar will get some attention for daring to record a song about a transvestite in a format seemingly still coming to terms with the fact that not everyone from a metropolitan area is in cahoots with the devil. But it’s a song that says almost nothing about its chosen topic, so the attention should stop short of praise.

Because it doesn’t take a stand or tell a compelling story, “Bobbi” seems to exist for the sole purpose of getting us to point and laugh at people different than ourselves. While Vassar nominally gestures toward a sort of bemused acceptance in the lyrics, the production is all cartoonish novelty, so overflowing with frivolous fun that it has the effect of further marginalizing Bobby and his silly lifestyle rather than imbuing him with any sort of recognizably human qualities.

When Vassar sings “ha ha ah ah ah”–as he regrettably does multiple times here–there’s little question about who he intends as the butt of his joke. What he might not realize is that a song this poor makes him seem equally laughable.

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  1. Rob
    May 22, 2009 at 8:02 am

    Phil vASSer seems more suited to be a professional jingle writer than an country artist.

  2. Paula_W
    May 22, 2009 at 8:06 am

    I think the story line itself has great potential (as just “good ol’ boy” fun song) – and it’s not too badly written as is – but … the melody … did Taylor Swift co-write this?

    I also think somebody like Travis Tritt or Trace Adkins could pull this off better than Phil Vassar.

  3. Dr. No
    May 22, 2009 at 9:52 am

    Did anyone else hear “Love Shack” in the intro?

  4. J.R. Journey
    May 22, 2009 at 9:53 am

    I have to disagree, CM. To me, this is just a fun novelty song. It’s not supposed to have a message or social commentary about transsexuals – that would make for a damn boring song IMO. The production is a bit much at times, but it’s not that far off any other Vassar single. (Listen to the autotuning of his voice on his debut album.)

    I also think your comparison to the Willie tune is a bit off too. Willie’s song was supposed to be a politically driven tune with something to say – this song is not. And categorizing cross-dressers with gays is a common misconception, but hard as it is to believe, most cross-dressers are straight.

    Oh, but this line: “…in a format seemingly still coming to terms with the fact that not everyone from a metropolitan area is in cahoots with the devil.” is just brilliant.

  5. CMW
    May 22, 2009 at 12:06 pm

    I have to disagree, CM. To me, this is just a fun novelty song. It’s not supposed to have a message or social commentary about transsexuals – that would make for a damn boring song IMO.

    I don’t think the song would have to incorporate social commentary to be successful… which is why I brought in Carrington’s “Dancing with a Man” as an example of a novelty song on the same topic that actually manages to be a little funny. Vassar just isn’t able to pull it off. In part, because he’s unable to find a good story in it other than “cross-dressers exist.” And when “cross-dressers exist” is the whole joke, that seems a little mean-spirited to me. I wouldn’t someone making a novelty of me or laughing at the fact that I exist.

    I also think your comparison to the Willie tune is a bit off too. Willie’s song was supposed to be a politically driven tune with something to say – this song is not.

    That was the comparison. I was pointing out a way Vassar could have approached the topic but chose not to. I think the middling approach he did choose is a lot less interesting.

    And categorizing cross-dressers with gays is a common misconception, but hard as it is to believe, most cross-dressers are straight.

    I thought I allowed for this nuance by writing that the two songs are on “similarly uncomfortable” (read: not identical) topics. It’s not a one-to-one comparison, but it is an instructive one in terms of thinking about different ways of handling uncomfortable topics in songs.

  6. J.R. Journey
    May 22, 2009 at 12:41 pm

    Points taken, CM. I guess I’m just alone in my thinking about this song because every review I read is negative or neutral at best.

  7. Leeann Ward
    May 22, 2009 at 1:11 pm

    I was just baffled by the song in general, but you rolled it into a good philosophical perspective for me. It’s just the kind of silly that makes me cringe rather than smile.

  8. Joe
    May 22, 2009 at 1:36 pm

    The melody and chorus are infectious. The “Love Shack” intro is unnecessary. As for the topic …

    I’m gonna lean in this direction: Phil Vassar must entirely understand the differences between transvestite, transsexual, and drag queen and is making a great effort to underscore that a transvestite can still be a “man’s man” when not cross-dressing.

    Anything other than that has the potential to be offensive.

  9. nm
    May 22, 2009 at 4:01 pm

    So what do you think of that Dale Watson song about the male trucker with his pretty red panties on?

  10. jg2tn09
    May 22, 2009 at 4:04 pm

    sure sounds like “love shack” at the beginning. i don’t know what to think about this one, there are some funny lines…and i’m not sure what on earth inspired him to write this..

  11. Hard Times
    May 22, 2009 at 4:17 pm

    “. . .For most red-blooded American males, dancing with a man is right up there with adult circumcision and attending a Rascal Flatts concert on the list of traumatizing experiences.”

    Did you really need to include a gratuitous slam on gay relationships in this review?

  12. Rick
    May 22, 2009 at 5:20 pm

    So Hard Times, if CMW had written “red-blooded STRAIGHT American males” would that help soften the blow to your PC sensibilities? I didn’t think so…

    I find the subject matter of this song just downright dopey and hope it has a short shelf life on the country charts. Is this really something soccer moms want to discuss with their kids on the way to school? What was Phil thinking? (or drinking?)

  13. Brady Vercher
    May 22, 2009 at 5:23 pm

    Regardless of the subject (it doesn’t really make a social statement one way or the other), I thought this was atrocious. Background singers, gratuitous ba ba bas, na na nas, pointless guitar wah wahs, an overly silly intro, a cram packed production = disaster.

    As far as Dale Watson’s “Truckin’ Queen,” there isn’t really any difference in the way the two songs present the subject matter. Both of them might elicit a chuckle the first time or two, but are otherwise lacking. At least the the Watson tune has some redeeming musical qualities, though.

    Hard Times, I don’t understand how making such an observation amounts to a slam against gay relationships. I think you’re reaching a bit or being a little too sensitive on that one.

  14. CMW
    May 22, 2009 at 5:24 pm

    So what do you think of that Dale Watson song about the male trucker with his pretty red panties on?

    It’s more to my taste musically, but in general I don’t find novelty songs on this topic to be anywhere near as funny as they imagine themselves to be.

    Did you really need to include a gratuitous slam on gay relationships in this review?

    That was more of a comment on policing of gender boundaries and rampant homophobia than a slam on gay relationships, but I guess I can see how you might read it the other way if you were really hellbent on doing so.

  15. Leeann Ward
    May 22, 2009 at 5:40 pm

    “That was more of a comment on policing of gender boundaries and rampant homophobia than a slam on gay relationships…”

    That’s actually how I took it, but I’m familiar with CMW’s dry wit and have gathered that he’s pretty open minded from other things that he’s written. I can see how it could have been taken wrong though without knowing those things.

  16. Nicolas
    May 22, 2009 at 6:12 pm

    ^ Why do some of ya’ll’s names not show up above your comments?

  17. J.R. Journey
    May 22, 2009 at 8:01 pm

    “^ Why do some of ya’ll’s names not show up above your comments?”

    That happens on my browser a lot too – especially when someone has put a quote in italics like I just did …

  18. PaulaW
    May 22, 2009 at 8:05 pm

    Mine too ………

  19. Steve Harvey
    May 22, 2009 at 9:17 pm

    I met her in a bar down in Ohio
    Where they drink Bud Light
    and it tastes just like Coca-Cola
    C O L A
    Cola!

    I asked her if she’d come and dance with me
    I asked her her name and in a dark brown voice she said Bobbi
    B O B BI
    Bobby
    Bob Bob Bob Bob Bobbi

  20. Stormy
    May 22, 2009 at 10:28 pm

    No, it tastes just like a Mia Tia.

    That way you can rhyme with B-o-b-b-i.

  21. Hard Times
    May 23, 2009 at 10:22 am

    It just gets tiresome to always have any mention of a gay relationship — even a positive statemate — accompanied by a disclaimer that basically says, “Of course I understand how gross and icky this is, but, wink, wink, look at me, I’m being really open-minded and compassionate anyway.”

  22. Hard Times
    May 23, 2009 at 10:49 am

    Let me try that again:

    It just gets tiresome to always have any mention of a gay relationship — even a positive statement — accompanied by a disclaimer that basically says, “Of course I understand how gross and icky this is, but, wink, wink, look at me, I’m being really open-minded and compassionate anyway.”

  23. Tammy
    May 23, 2009 at 2:47 pm

    I’ve listened to the song and I think(IMO) is a good song with a good beat and I like it. I love Phil’s songs and I’ve seen him twice and plan on seeing him again soon. So far my radio station has not played it. Usually it takes a couple weeks after a song comes out when they start playing it. When they do and if they do I will call in and request it.

  24. Cat
    May 23, 2009 at 7:39 pm

    i really like this song. cm is overanalyzing. they dont pay attention to the musicality. phils voice is amazing.

  25. merlefan49
    May 23, 2009 at 8:15 pm

    Not impressed with the song. I’ve never been impressed with Phil Vassar either.

  26. linda mcdonald
    May 24, 2009 at 10:43 am

    i never listen to country music but heard this on the radio and loved it, it’s always strange how a certain group of people feel they are insulated from anyone in their family being gay or transgenged. no gays in country. hmmmmm.

  27. Stormy
    May 24, 2009 at 12:13 pm

    There are several gay people in country music.

  28. Nicolas
    May 24, 2009 at 2:27 pm

    ^ Who?

  29. Stormy
    May 24, 2009 at 3:44 pm

    Gretchen Peters is the first one who comes to mind and she has been out since the 1980′s. Mary Gauthier, Kirsten Hall. I’m sure there are more.

  30. Nicolas
    May 24, 2009 at 4:09 pm

    So only women?

  31. Stormy
    May 24, 2009 at 4:23 pm

    The women are more open about it.

  32. Nicolas
    May 24, 2009 at 4:24 pm

    Yes, it appears to be that lesbians are more accepted than gays

  33. Erik
    May 24, 2009 at 4:46 pm

    That’s because there’s a double standard going on between straight men – “lesbians are hot, but gay men are icky”.

  34. Stormy
    May 24, 2009 at 4:50 pm

    1. Lesbians ARE gay.
    2. Still, to say that there are no gays in country music is to make ignorant and prejudice assumptions about country.

  35. Jon
    May 24, 2009 at 4:55 pm

    “Gretchen Peters is the first one who comes to mind and she has been out since the 1980’s.”

    Um, you sure about that, Stormy? Not that there’s anything wrong with being gay or lesbian, but because it would be pretty irresponsible to make a statement like that about anyone without being sure – not just of their sexual orientation, but of their public statements about it.

  36. Nicolas
    May 24, 2009 at 4:58 pm

    Yes, I’m aware lesbians ARE gay. Lesbian is a female identifier – and gay is a male identifier. Technically, they’re homosexuals.

  37. Stormy
    May 24, 2009 at 6:09 pm

    Jon: I read it in a bio of Gretchen at one point.
    Tania Elizabeth of The Duhks is also openly gay.

  38. CountryFan
    May 24, 2009 at 6:41 pm

    Don’t forget about Ty Herndon… he’s pretty much openly gay after getting caught giving a man oral sex a few years back. Mandy Barnett is as well.

  39. Matt. B
    May 24, 2009 at 8:31 pm

    It’s pretty well known that former singer Dude Mowrey is too. It’s kind of why his career was derailed. It really shouldn’t matter one way or another but it seems to matter, even in rock/pop (outside a few people).

  40. Jon
    May 25, 2009 at 7:14 am

    Yeah, it does seem to matter, which is why naming artists (or, really, anyone else) on the basis of some potentially inaccurate recollection of having heard something somewhere sometime isn’t a good idea.

  41. Kylee
    May 25, 2009 at 9:14 am

    Taylor Swift is my favorite Singer!!! I AM Taylor swifts 1# fan!!! to prove that I am Taylor’s 1# Fan I am making a Book about Taylor Swift

  42. Paul W Dennis
    May 25, 2009 at 10:27 am

    Kylee – use VERY LARGE print and 185 pages of pictures and you will have a 200 page book to sell

    Whoopee !!!!!!!!!!!!!

  43. Bobby
    May 30, 2009 at 2:08 pm

    “Listen to the autotuning of his voice on his debut album.” Funny, that’s about the only album where I *didn’t* hear it. He sounded really tinny and auto tuned on “Love Is a Beautiful Thing” and especially “I Would,” which sounded like he was singing through a phone. Never mind that his songwriting has just NOT been up to par from… well, his second album onward. He’s been getting really bland for a long time, so if nothing else, this song is a breath of fresh air.

    “It’s pretty well known that former singer Dude Mowrey is too.” This I have not heard, nor have I been able to verify. And how can we list off country music homosexuals and leave out K. D. freakin’ Lang, the manliest woman in country music?

  44. A.J.
    May 30, 2009 at 11:50 pm

    I have read several people slam Phil Vassar for his song, “Bobbi with an I” (along with this article), but I wonder why? I can understand that some of his songs seem to have a repetitive theme, but how many song writers don’t have a favorite topic to write about?

    If you thoroughly examine every song writer and singer in existence, you will find that nearly every single one has focused upon one theme or another. Rarely can a song be found that’s completely and totally original–one song inspires another, and so on and so forth.

    You can see “Bobbi with an I” as an insult, as another repetitive theme brought about in the music world, or an uninteresting story about Bobby/Bobbi. Or you can view it as a song that simply tells a humorous story–a particular experience (real or imagined) that can be shared with an audience.

    That’s really what music is about, isn’t it? Expressing oneself and telling a particular story that can either bring a tear to your eyes, or make you suddenly burst out laughing in the car.

  45. Julie
    May 31, 2009 at 2:39 pm

    I love the song “Bobbi with an I” it’s catchy and the first few times I heard it I had no clue what Phil was talking about. I don’t think he was trying to make any point with the song, it was most likely just for fun. This one reminds me of his other catchy just-for-fun songs like “Six pack Summer” and “Good ole Days”. It’s just something to dance and sing-a-long to.

  46. Stormy
    May 31, 2009 at 3:41 pm

    AJ: What’s funny about the story?

  47. Tim
    June 2, 2009 at 2:57 pm

    Way too critical & over-analyzing going on here. This is a fun-loving song with a catchy hook. Phil’s vocals are far from great but his song writing & originality is!

  48. bubbaman
    June 12, 2009 at 9:51 pm

    First of all I can’t believe that you listed a Rascal Flatts concert to be on the list of “traumatizing events”. I find it amusing that you throw off on a multi-platinum selling band as you sit at home writing internet reviews about a song that you obviously can’t comprehend. Nowhere in the song does he in any way make fun of him, he says “live and let live”. You are trying to break it down and twist it into something that it is not. It is just a fun spirited song to make people laugh, if you can’t find the same amusement in it, then by all means don’t listen to it. Phil Vassar has a big enough fan base, I’m sure that the loss of an amateur internet critic won’t hurt him in the least.

  49. Matt
    June 19, 2009 at 8:56 pm

    If you don’t like this song because of the overproduction, I can understand. Ever since he went to Universal South, all his songs suddenly have all this unnessary “frivolous fun” as i think it was described in this blog. Baby Rocks is another song that would be much better without all that. I just don’t get it why he’s doing it. Cut out the beginning of Bobbi with an I, and its a much, much better song. And yeah, its bubble gum pop country, but that’s what he’s always been. If you remove the beginning, is this any different than Carlene, Little Red Rodeo, Bye Bye, etc? It’s actually refreshing to see him going back to that after all his slow singles as of late.

    But if you don’t like this song because of the message, than I really think your overanalying the whole thing. Its just supposed to be a fun, lighthearted song. If there was a knock on his last CD, its that it was so un-Phil Vassar, so pessimistic and somber. Seems like he was trying to go completely opposite of that with this song. It’s just a fun song, sort of in the “Billy’s Gog His Beer Goggles On” category that’s supposed to make you smile.

    And if there is a message in this song, I see it as this: Maybe Billy isn’t just one of the guys, but the only reason is because of the pink party dress. Other than that, he bences 335, he drives a tow truck and he goes out to drink with his friends. In other words, don’t be too quick to judge someone on their first appearance.

  50. Matt
    June 19, 2009 at 8:59 pm

    Oops, meant to type Bobbi, not Billy in that last post. Still thinking about Beer Goggles i guess.

  51. Stormy
    June 19, 2009 at 9:05 pm

    Billy’s Got His Beer Goggles On just made me want to stab Neil McCoy in the butt with a spork.

  52. Rick
    June 19, 2009 at 9:17 pm

    I think Phil may be onto something here! He’s just taking the lead in trying to attract the bi, gay, lesbian, trans-sexual, and trans-gendered country fan blocs! Turns out Phil is crazy like a fox!

    http://blog.cmt.com/2009-06-19/gay-men-crushing-on-country-stars/

  53. Razor X
    June 19, 2009 at 11:08 pm

    Billy’s Got His Beer Goggles On just made me want to stab Neil McCoy in the butt with a spork.

    It’s just one of many in McCoy’s vast catalog of crappy songs.

  54. Leeann Ward
    June 19, 2009 at 11:37 pm

    It’s on my iPod and I don’t skip it when it comes on (I may or may not even turn it up sometimes), but I’m not proud of it either.

  55. Nicolas
    June 20, 2009 at 1:52 am

    I finally heard this song the other day – its horrible, I hadn’t imagined it was really “THAT” bad

    I think it not only deserves a thumbs down, but 2 thumbs down =)

  56. Leeann Ward
    June 20, 2009 at 3:42 am

    I was referring to the McCoy song, by the way, which really probably doesn’t even deserve being cleared up, I realize.:)

  57. MATT
    June 21, 2009 at 2:21 pm

    By the way, for anybody who was wondering what inspired him to write this song….

    according to the video on his Web site regarding the making of the video, he says it’s about a friend of his named Robert who once showed up a bar in a dress to get free beer, I would assume on some sort of ladies night or something like that.

    Anyway, some of you people seriously need to take the sticks out of your a**es. Not everything in life — especially a song — needs to be serious. Learn to have some fun once in awhile. I couldn’t imagine going through life analyzing the hell out of everything like some of you people are.

    I mean seriously, the initial review of this song tried to analyze what Phil intended with every single word he chose in the song. Folk, its just not that kind of song.

  58. Jason P.
    June 21, 2009 at 2:33 pm

    Anyway, some of you people seriously need to take the sticks out of your a**es. Not everything in life — especially a song — needs to be serious. Learn to have some fun once in awhile. I couldn’t imagine going through life analyzing the hell out of everything like some of you people are.”

    totally agree…i think there’s probably people out there that like to fancy themselves as serious music critics, and they just can’t bring themselves to admit this song made them smile and tap their foot, so they’ll tear it apart to lessen their personal embarassment that they actually find it kind of catchy. It’s like they think that actually liking this song (or probably a lot of Trace Adkins, etc) will be a blow to their refined musical tastes.

  59. Razor X
    June 21, 2009 at 3:54 pm

    Or maybe we just don’t like crap.

  60. Leeann Ward
    June 21, 2009 at 4:30 pm

    What does Trace Adkins have to do with not liking this song?

    It’s fun when people project their feelings onto others.

  61. Stormy
    June 21, 2009 at 4:51 pm

    Or we’re old enough to remember The Kinks and Lola so we know we don’t have to chose between fun and good.

  62. Nicolas
    June 21, 2009 at 6:44 pm

    Some people seem to have a jaded sense of fun

    I can still have fun listening to someone like Trisha Yearwood who makes really good music

    Fun does not come before musical quality

  63. k
    June 21, 2009 at 7:30 pm

    That Rascal Flatts slam was immature, tacky, and rude. I advise the writer of this review to please grow up for goodness sakes.

  64. Fitz
    June 26, 2009 at 11:30 am

    Agreed with above poster… The Flatts slam was just unnecessary and immature.

    As well as hilarious.

  65. NateDog
    July 2, 2009 at 11:16 pm

    The video is about a former football player that dressed up like a woman on ladies night to get free drinks. If you knew Bobbie Withani you would understand. This is a very true story.

    There’s really nothing more to it.

  66. Elsie
    July 7, 2009 at 7:45 pm

    Amen Natedog.

    Why oh why do peoples over-complicate things so? A round of beers for everyone!!! :)

  67. Paul
    July 9, 2009 at 10:05 pm

    This song isn’t about a transvestite. Phil himself said it was about a friend he grew up with one night dressed up like a women to get free drinks during the bar’s lady’s night. Watch the interview.

  68. Stormy
    July 9, 2009 at 10:13 pm

    It would be more interesting if it were about a transvestite.

  69. Nicolas
    July 10, 2009 at 12:02 am

    Either way, the song still sucks

  70. tdriver
    July 13, 2009 at 6:46 am

    To the dumb ass that wrote the article, It’s about a cross dresser. If you can’t figure that out how can you even think about writing a derogatory artivle about the song.

  71. Leeann Ward
    July 13, 2009 at 8:23 am

    So interesting. A fan of the song at Country Universe commented to inform us that it’s not about a cross dresser. Methinks the Phil Pundants are straying from message.:)

  72. Kirby
    July 20, 2009 at 3:58 pm

    Phil Vassar is an amazing singer and songwriter who deservers more respect than this!!! the song is about his friend who dresses up as a woman to get a free drink. Where’s your sense of humor people!

  73. shelley
    July 25, 2009 at 5:32 pm

    This is a catchy toon..nothing gay or transvestite about it..just a fun song about a guy dressing up on ladies night to get free drinks!! Ladies always get a break so he dresses up for the free drinks..you all make too much out about stuff! Enjoy the song for the fun it is intended to be!

  74. Stormy
    July 25, 2009 at 5:54 pm

    nothing gay or transvestite about it
    That’s percisely the problem–it is so boring and neutered that it doesn’t even dare tell an interesting story.

    just a fun song about a guy dressing up on ladies night to get free drinks!! Ladies always get a break so he dresses up for the free drinks..you all make too much out about stuff!
    Where to start here:
    1. I LOVE it when my entre gender is treated as a joke. Oh wait, no I don’t.
    2. Most of the women I hang out with buy our own drinks on principle because its somewhat skanky to hang out in a bar flirting with guys to get free drinks. And most of the guys we meet are happy to be treated as people and not cash cards.
    3. Yes, Ladies always get a break when it comes to drinks. Maybe these ladies of which you speak could afford their own drinks if they made more than 80 cents for every dollar their male counterparts make, or if they did not pay more for health care because so little of what they need is covered, etc. Do some research, you will find that “ladies” nearly never get a break.

  75. Roger
    July 26, 2009 at 12:38 am

    I’m with nicolas on this one….

    “Either way, the song still sucks”

  76. Steely B. Ahrre
    August 28, 2009 at 5:37 pm

    I guess I was left scratching my head when I first heard this song leaving me with more questions than the song answers. Is Bobby really gay? In the video, maybe not. He is just getting the cheap drinks. If he is gay, it is kind of sad. Not all gay men who can bench 335 like to wear pink party dresses, or have platinum curls. Which would make this so sterotypical. The kind of thing that continues to keep masculine gay Americans in the closet. The subtext seems to be not very positive if he is not gay and is just another transvestite. And why would he be in the men’s room if he was dressed as a female? I don’t know. I just wish there were more positive songs out there about gay Americans in country music.

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